Monday, April 24, 2017

Can't say dad

My husband has been raising his stepkids since they were 1,3 and 5. That has been for the last 6 years. Their parent/child relationship developed naturally and the kids started calling him dad on their own, which is healthy for any child in a healthy step parent relationship. About a year ago, the kids came home and said KR and GR said they were no longer allowed to call their stepdad "dad" and had to call him by his name.  The kids  of course were confused, because they were told they were not allowed to call GR by her name, and had to call her "mom". I told the kids that they could call my husband whatever they want, his name, dad or stepdad.  It didn't matter to us.  They all said they wanted to call him dad because that's what he was to them.  So I said "call him that then". They said they were getting in trouble for calling him that at KR's house. I told them at KR's house to just call their stepdad by name, to avoid problems, and at our home,  call him what made them happy. No child should have to feel bad for loving both parents, and wanting to call both sets of parents mom and dad.

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